We live by other people's standards. We are who we are because it is what they want us to be. But more importantly, we live because we have our own standards. People just tend to misinterpret our purpose sometimes and we are automatically bad. We are automatically what they think we're not.
For no matter how we try to meet their standards, their perception towards us would always define us in their sight. And no matter how we try to act accordingly, there is still no amount of explanation that could justify our good intention.
However, pursuing for manly approval is vain. Everything else is fleeting. The best person we should impress is Jesus Christ. He does not judge us for our physical attributes, He looks at our heart.
We all want to portray the best possible picture here on Earth, to the people surrounding us. But remember, there is someone up there who has better plans for us. (Jeremiah 29:11)
It is then now not our concern if people do not like us, if we do not meet their standards. The most important thing is that we follow what God tells us to do, we live according to His will, and we abide in Him alone. By this, all good things shall follow. (Matthew 6:33)